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Asking for help from you parents; sooner or later you will do it. You move out, and things happen, you make an attempt to manage it, but if your relationship with your parents is reasonable then inevitably you will ask your parents for help. Financial help mostly, but you may need advice or emotional support. We’ve all been there.
You need help. You want to do it right so you don’t look like an ungrateful shit, yes? Well, this is how to ask for help from your parents and how to get it.
It may be too late for this now, but the number one tip for asking your parents for help is to keep them in the loop about what’s happening with you in general. Don’t shut them out. A simple text or call every few days, every week, will let them know you are thinking of them. And out of the blue request can be hurtful. Like you only need them when you want something. So be nice to the olds. Get in touch.
Demanding money or shouting when you are given advice probably isn’t going to go down well. When you ask your parents for help, you have a better chance of them saying yes. Your parents are supposed to love you without fail forever. Sure. But let’s face it, that’s a big ask sometimes. So use the manner they taught you and ask them nicely.
Your parents don’t owe you anything in life other than getting you safely to the stage you passed a while ago. Alive and well and moderately fed. That’s their job done and dusted. So any help they give you now you should be grateful they chose to do so. To assume they SHOULD and WILL help you is to be an entitled little pain in the but, so don’t do that.
When you ask for help from your parents, it would be worth offering to repay them if it is money, or helping them out if they need it. My parents are fully independent people, they don’t ask for much. But I know that sometimes they’d rather not do the mowing, or spend their weekends cleaning up around the house yard. So we do it for them. Just because it’s your parents doesn’t mean you shouldn’t behave like you would if you were asking a favour from a friend.
Now I don’t know your parents, but I know mine. And I know that if I needed help, in whatever form, and I didn’t ask them, my parents would be sad about that. So with everything in mind that we said above, even if you can’t repay the favour or whatever, you should ask.
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Melissa is the Leave Home Blog Boss. She is living the high life in her hometown, didn’t finish her marketing degree & drinks too much on a Thursday night. Blogging since 2009, Melissa decided to put everything she knows into making The Leave Home Blog a light & easy how-to guide for being a grown up.