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Do you know how to live alone? In a previous post, we talked about adjusting to sharing a house, room or unit with people who aren’t your family. It’s a big ask and something that takes a bit of an adjustment. But what if you don’t end up sharing? What if you are on your own. Do you know how to live alone? Do you know how to keep the wheels spinning on a household and not turn into a recluse?
There’s a whole range of challenges that come with living on your own compared to sharing with others. How do you even make friends without built-in buddies we call roommates? How will you pay for all the things you need to pay for. Is cooking for one a thing or should you expect to be eating out every night? Start here. Start with our guide below. Do not immediately buy a cat, there is still hope for you. Haha.
I think one of the keys of how to live alone is that you need to continue to communicate with the outside world. And no I don’t mean a Facebook updates or an Instagram post. Text your friends, call your family, be in touch with people. If you are in communication with those around you it’s easier to have people to invite over on the days when you are lonely. Or someone to talk to if their weird noises at night. Stay in touch and never let living alone turn into being alone.
The buck is going to stop with you on all the things. There’s no one to blame if the power bill or rent is late. No one but you could have left that plate on the sink or avoiding cleaning the bathroom for the last month. It all falls to you. This can be a good thing but you need to be organised. Devise a system to keep a track of your bills, maybe start a budget, and other important dates like rental inspections or lease renewals times.
Following on from the point above, try to stay on top of the cleaning so it doesn’t become a huge issue for you later. Have a process where you clean as you go or set aside a certain day every week for a bigger clean up. Sure living alone means that you could leave your dirty clothes all over the place, but I’m not sure that you actually want to live like that. A guide for how to live alone wouldn’t be complete without telling you to manage yourself in terms of tidiness.
Living alone can mean making new friends is more difficult. Especially if you are attending a University or College and everyone else is sharing with other people. So you need to find other ways to be social. Join clubs or sporting teams. Actually try to bond with classmates in group activities, start conversations with strangers and go to events in your area for people your age.
Your budget PROBABLY isn’t going to stretch to take out for breakfast, lunch and dinner so now it’s time to hone your skills. You’re going to learn to shop and cook for one. A special talent that some people never master. The good news is that you can eat whatever you like, when you like. The bad news is that eating at all is up to you. It takes a bit of trial and error but you’ll get there. And worst case, if you find you’re always making a too much food, freeze the leftovers for those nights you couldn’t be bothered cooking. Win/win.
The only way you will ever be able to successfully learn how to live alone is by being okay with being on your own. There are going to be times when you feel like you need company, that’s fine. But in general being ok in your own company is important. It might take some getting used to, nights can be awfully quiet if you are coming from a loud family home, but that doesn’t mean they have to be bad. Enjoy the quiet, read a book, take control of the remote or soak in a hot bath for as long as you like. Being alone if great fun when you let it be.
Do you have any tips for how to live alone? Have you done it or do you prefer to live with other people?
Melissa is the Leave Home Blog Boss. She is living the high life in her hometown, didn’t finish her marketing degree & drinks too much on a Thursday night. Blogging since 2009, Melissa decided to put everything she knows into making The Leave Home Blog a light & easy how-to guide for being a grown up.