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How to tell your housemate to move out? How indeed. Sometimes in life things just don’t work out. You move in together or rent a room and after a while it turns out that it just isn’t going to work; you need to ask your housemate to move out. It’s usually an awkward conversation but most of the time the buildup is worse than the actual saying ‘I want you to move out’.
From my personal experience, I’ve found there are three key ways to ask someone to move out. Three ways to say look we tried, but you need to get the heck out of my house before I lose my mind. It’s time for you to move out. It’s important to note that you would need to be the person whose name is on the lease, if it’s not, your time is up mate. Pack your bags to move.
If you’re the boss and they’ve got to go, let’s get started!
Taking the approach that you need space because you want to live alone or any of those similar type excuses will mean the person is left feeling like it’s your thing, not theirs. It’s a softly-softly approach that may require a little bit of white lie ability.
It can backfire, though. Unless you specifically ask them to move out as part of the conversation, they may just think you want some more quiet time. Be clear that you want the place to yourself and that they need to leave.
With some housemates, the only thing you can do is tell them it’s not working out. And if pushed, list your grievances. Tell them you can’t handle the noise, the mess, the smell for one minute longer and that this is their notice to leave.
The downside here is that while you list the problems, the issues you are having, the other person may get defensive and mention your bad habits, get annoyed and think you’re a jerk. But if they’ve pushed you over the edge, you probably aren’t planning to leave them on the Christmas card list anyway, so do what you can and move on.
You know, rip it and quit it. Haha. Fast is the aim here, so it’s not about details or excuse, reasons or conversations. It’s about saying sorry, can you move out, please. Simple but effective. If they have questions or want to talk about it more, just tell them it’s private. Don’t get drawn into big long conversations. The best way to deliver this version of ‘it’s time to go housemate’ is fast and to the point.
Don’t text, leave a voice mail or a note on their door. None of those ways are grown up ways of handling things. Sure having the conversation sucks. But don’t be the jerk that broke up with them via text. Have the conversation face to face if you can. Over the phone if necessary.
Melissa is the Leave Home Blog Boss. She is living the high life in her hometown, didn’t finish her marketing degree & drinks too much on a Thursday night. Blogging since 2009, Melissa decided to put everything she knows into making The Leave Home Blog a light & easy how-to guide for being a grown up.