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The good people at Durex have funded* a little Safe Sex 101 lesson for you all today! Hang around, laugh at some tales from those who have been in the trenches and hang about for the giveaway at the end. Just like when we told you to take control of your medical care, this is the moment to take control of your sex life and how you practice. So let’s roll!
This is where condoms come in. Protect yourself against STDs and transferable diseases using protection and some tried and true safety first methods. That said, in a perfect world you and your new partner should be screened for STDs prior to commencing a sexual relationship. Perfect world.
Otherwise, your health and safety relating to sex is about minimising your risks. The risks to your health and the risks to the future you have planned in terms of pregnancy and disease. And that may sound harsh, I mean who doesn’t love a baby, but do you want one for keeps right now? Probably not. One word, contraceptive! Use it as it is designed to minimise your risk in this area.
Contraceptives don’t protect against the spread of disease. You’ll NEED to use a condom for this. Whether you choose a male or female option (yes female, a little harder to find but just as effective) you need to know what you are doing when you are applying the condom.
And in this regard, practice makes perfect. A total newbie, practice on a banana or similar until you get the hang of it. You know, unless you own the anatomy in question than practice on yourself. Win/win.
Male condoms should be applied to erect penises before it has come into contact with its partner. If you put it in place, go to roll and find it is on the wrong way, throw it out and start again. Watch fingernails, rings and other sharp edges when handling the condom as it may tear.
I hope it goes without saying, but maybe not, one condom, one time. This is one place you can’t recycle. Another thing to consider is that using lubricant is a great safe sex tip but not if the oil based product is weakening your condom. Make sure your lube plays nicely with your condom and then go nuts.
If you are with a partner who refuses to consider this side of things, it is probably time to reconsider your partner. Open communication and working together makes sex more fun, easy and in the less sexy end of things, safer. Which brings us to emotional safety.
You should only ever, EVER, be having sex if you want to have sex. Ever. So if you are feeling unsure, uncomfortable and stressed about a decision to have sex. Don’t do it. Your emotional health is just as important as your physical health. you should feel comfortable with your partner and in the situation you’re in.
This is especially important if you have had negative previous sexual experiences or experience any type of abuse. In this case, safe sex 101 isn’t for you folks, it’s time to have a chat with your Doctor about talking to a counsellor about your experience.
It would be worth considering having a conversation with a trustworthy source of information. A friend or sibling who has boldly gone where you have never gone before. Be wary of those people who are going to take it as a bit of a joke or give you crap. Find someone who cares a little about your health emotionally and physically, and talk to them.
Our sponsors have a great article about first-time sex that may also be useful for the ‘research’ side of things. Let’s face it, googling sex on the internet takes a certain level of risk.
So now you have the basics. Not how to do it, but how to protect yourself physically and emotionally when having ALL the sex. So let’s have a giveaway. Yes!?
To enter the giveaway to win a pack from our sponsor Durex, simply share your best safe sex rhyme. The one judged the funniest and most creative by my A-Team will win! I had some friends to give you some examples… Don’t be a loner, cover your boner. While your undressing Venus, dress up your penis. Don’t be a weenus wrap your penis! Before entering the hole, put a cover on your pole. You’re welcome. What can I say, they’re gifted.
1 x Durex RealFeel 8 pack condoms
1 x Durex Fetherlite Ultra Thin Feel condoms
1 x Durex Pleasure Me 12 pack condoms
1 x Durex Play Massage 2 in 1 Lube & Massage Gel
Entries close Friday 30th October at 7pm. Good luck!
*sponsored by Durex
Melissa is the Leave Home Blog Boss. She is living the high life in her hometown, didn’t finish her marketing degree & drinks too much on a Thursday night. Blogging since 2009, Melissa decided to put everything she knows into making The Leave Home Blog a light & easy how-to guide for being a grown up.